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Tipping the Balance (CalPac Crew, No. 2)

Tipping the Balance - Christopher Koehler The thing I liked most about this book was the depiction of a big man who had lost his self-confidence thanks to the overwhelming nature of his relationship with his father.People tend to assume that big people are naturally mentally tough, when in reality they've often had to suppress their strength for fear of hurting little people. I've seen this happen with children who are bullied by smaller, weaker ones because they know they can't retaliate.Long term this makes it difficult for them to believe they are worth anything and they can be prone to walking away when the going gets tough rather than fighting back because they know if they did someone would get physically hurt, and it wouldn't be them.Recognising this allowed me to accept how easily Brad assumed Drew hated him and hesitated to return phone calls.Whether characters should or shouldn't behave the way they do isn't relevant to me. In real life, people's motives for doing things can be extremely illogical. When you're hurting physically you can be very self-centred and just see things through a very narrow field of reference.Friends can knowingly or unwittingly influence you, especially if their perceptions of your relationship aren't entirely positive.Only the two people concerned really know what they get from and contribute to a partnership. It's not for others to judge, yet too often we do.The story kept me interested and rooting for the couple. That's the main thing.